The Moving Train: On Celebrities and Marriage and the Overrated Search for True Love. By Sylvanus Omoniyi.

Sylvanus Omoniyi

Most of us always think we have nothing to offer, that we are empty, and that we are not good enough, because others have said so. We have been made to believe, for a long time, that because we cannot do what the society expects of us, we are less of a human being. This is wrong. We cannot all be in the same direction. Even God who created us didn’t create us the same. There is variety in creation. Our differences make the world beautiful. That’s by the way. Let’s discuss serious issues.

Let me start with Atiku Abubakar, the Former Vice President of Nigeria. He said that Nigerian public university graduates are brainless. That they can’t speak error-free English. Agreed. I think Atiku has reasons for his opinion. What he said is true for some Nigerian university graduates. They can’t speak English because the government of Nigeria has destroyed the standard of education. They can’t speak English because the government has failed to do what they should do. They can’t speak English because people like Atiku Abubakar are responsible for sabotaging quality education in Nigeria through their greediness. Now, he feels he can insult Nigerian youths anyhow and use them to gather more stars. No problem. We are watching.

On celebrities and marriage. I don’t know why celebrity marriages don’t work out. Oh, this is not even limited to celebrities only. Most marriages don’t work out these days in spite of all the marriage counselors we have around. Let’s take Ronke Odusanya as a case study. She is popularly known for her roles in Yoruba movies. According to NET, the actress, who previously dated Fuji singer Pasuma , believes celebrity marriages don’t work out because both parties are in the limelight. She said one of the demerits of being in the limelight is that one finds it difficult to find true love. You can’t tell if that man or woman loves you for who you are or because you are a celebrity.

Does true love even exist? I don’t think so. There is nothing like true love. It is only an imagination that exists in our brains. Everyone is looking for something. People claim to love and they still go ahead to hurt the person they claim to love. Is that love? People claim they love and yet it doesn’t stop them from killing one another. People claim to love you and they can’t even jump into the grave to be buried with you when you die. Is that love? You can never find true love in this world. Those who keep searching for it are merely deceiving themselves. I think we should just be contented with living. I think we should do the things that make us happy and then die when the time comes. Forget about true love. It doesn’t exist. It is only a mirage.

I want to believe that true love is overrated. Many have died in the search for it. Many are still dying. Most of the things that take our breath away in this world are vanity. We can’t even trust them. Let me conclude by quoting from the book of Ecclesiastes 2:21-24. The preacher says: “For there is a man whose labour is in wisdom, and in knowledge, and in equity; yet to a man that hath not laboured therein shall he leave it for his portion. This also is vanity and a great evil. For what hath man of all his labour, and of the vexation of his heart, wherein he hath laboured under the sun? For all his days are sorrows, and his travail grief; yea, his heart taketh not rest in the night. This is also vanity. There is nothing better for a man, than that he should eat and drink, and that he should make his soul enjoy good in his labour. This also I saw, that it was from the hand of God”.

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