According to American politician and former four-star general, Colin Powell, “The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you”.
Some people are best appreciated at a distance. There comes a time when things and people no longer bring you joy or happiness. It is a sign that there is a need for change, and you have to take the initiative to switch things up. Relationships are an exchange. It takes two people mutually invested in making each other better, holding each other accountable and being of help when in need. Those who are always first at the table and walk away with the most before ever leaving anything for others must be forced to take their appetite elsewhere.
Relationships should never be more of a burden than a blessing. When you start to feel used or taken advantage of, mentally or spiritually, cut it off quickly. You should always surround yourself with people who support you and your dreams. Though support comes in many forms, the common thread is authenticity and honesty. Those with a true desire to watch you win in life don’t care to offer endless pats on the back or overlook your weaknesses, they actively push you to be the best version of yourself. Stay clear of those who bring you down rather than lift you up.
Any relationship that is not making your life better in one way or the other should be cut off. There are times to be ruthless and heartless. You can’t be friends with everyone. You can’t keep everyone in your life. Most people are only in your life to suck you. They are there because of what they want from you. They have no intention of adding anything to your life. Cut them off. Frustrate them. Kill them before they kill you. All things, including people and feelings, change. When they do change, it is only fair for all parties involved to move on. Every decision you make has a direct impact on your future. As a result, you should never feel guilty for making choices that are in your best interests. You must remember: It is your life.